The Official Venting Thread

There's usually one or two of these around web forums. At least most of the ones I used to attend.

Sometimes, it's nice to vent out any frustrations and get a little support from the community for what's going on in your life. So why not, I figured, set one of these up here?

If something is on your mind, boiling away, let it out here. Be sure to keep things civil and rationalized. But if you need to vent, go for it. We all have struggles and things that pop up in our lives that sometimes we just need to let it out somewhere.

Happy ranting!

FUCK UNIVERSITY!

3 Years of my life wasted on stuff that I didn't care for and I'm never gonna need to remember again. The education system is fucked up! They have the nerve to tell me that they hope I had a great time there... BS!

Man, tell me about it.

I've been in college for 5 years. I attend a liberal arts college, and I'm going there for a degree in Fine Art. I'm an Art concentration going for Graphic Design. And I do a damn good job at what I make, not to mention, I have a bunch of other skills under my belt. Now, I'm not one for traditional mediums, but I can handle a computer like a beast. Layouts? Editting? Illustrator? I work with a lot of different concepts and almost everybody loves my work.

Except the professors, apparently.

I enrolled under the BFA (Bachelor of Fine Arts) program. It's a 5-6 year program of intense art training, particularly when we decide on a concentration. Mine was Graphic Design, like I stated. However, over the course of five years, I have witnessed nothing but trouble for what I've been striving to do. To the point of where I just want to give up on everything, but I won't let myself.

Between the inability to ever get into any of the classes I needed to take, I also ended up having a transcript that was fucked up by the system and had to be redone at the last minute. On top of that, both my primary concentration director and the dean did not like me until just about now, when I'm about to graduate. So they'd always do things to HOLD ME BACK. It was awful.

Then, just as I'm about to graduate, we have to take Concentration Review Seminars. Which are, basically, a seminar to prepare us for the real working world as an artist. They also judge our work, and decide whether or not we are worthy of earning our degree.

Lo and behold, they don't pass me because the judges just didn't like my work. They attempted to judge a commercial art like a traditional art, and it backfired on me. Which, sucked ass. Even my concentration director, the one who didn't like me, tried to defend me in their vote but they still voted against me. Haha, rotten luck.

So I was shifted to a BS (Bachelor of Science) in my field. Still a degree, just not as fancy of one. It also means I cannot obtain an MFA if I ever decided to go to graduate school. And it also means I wasted two years and thousands of dollars on classes I didn't even need to take.

Ah, but it's almost done...I graduate in December, and I can get on with my life.

that is pretty much why i don't want to major in Fine Arts since they will pretty much criticize my art work and it's not the best field for this area. when i was in High School i took AP art. we pretty much had to submit our portfolio on the website. Guess what score the judges ended up giving me?! A FREAKING 1!

KyonSuzumiya wrote:that is pretty much why i don't want to major in Fine Arts since they will pretty much criticize my art work and it's not the best field for this area.  when i was in High School i took AP art. we pretty much had to submit our portfolio on the website. Guess what score the judges ended up giving me?! A FREAKING 1!

That's why you go against the grain with them. In all honesty, a majority of the Art Major system is preparing you for "not giving any fucks". The more you do that, the more successful you can because because it's about you enjoying your art or trade. That being said, they do have expectations that need to be followed.

I'm probably gonna major in computer programming and minor in art when i actually do get to go to college

Depending on where you go, there aren't art minors. Usually, it's the other way around when it comes to minoring, because of how much time and effort you have to put into an art program.

I really want to have an Art Major because i love drawing. it was my first choice. I just don't know how hard it would be to find employment in the area

You'd be surprised, especially if you were to go into something like Illustration or Drafting, which both have a heavy job market. Art, even though it's often portrayed as a trade that you either make it or break it, has a lot of technical skills you can apply to the real world that many jobs look for. You just have to actually look.

A venting thread? oh god; better I better stay out of this one. 24 years of pent up anger would turn this thread into hell.

Bryan Dacote wrote:A venting thread? oh god; better I better stay out of this one. 24 years of pent up anger would turn this thread into hell.

I'm almost at 24; my birthday is next month

Speaking of the whole "art" thing and critiquing... I find art professors in university (at least mine) are generally snobby know-it-all's that aren't worth the time or effort. My painting prof forced us to use oil based paint because that's what he likes, and when I was having issues (being used to acrylic and watercolour) he's like "...what grade did you get in drawing?" (pre-req) and I'm like "B+" and he's like "OH.. really? Who was your prof for that? I find that surprising..." -.- Irrelevant. I don't like the complexity of mixing oils and paint, using solvent, and waiting 7+ days for work to dry before touching it again! Although the results do look amazing... anyways.

My advice? You'd do better on your own doing art, and building a portfolio without prestigious accreditation from some fancy school or something.

Also... why in the bloody blazes does my final exam have to be at the END of APRIL!? They're always done beginning-mid April! What is this I don't even~~~ >.<

okay I think ill give this a try!!
This actually happened today. I at school and in homeroom at and I went to go get some tissues because well yeah sickness and stuff. and this girl I know just looked at me both times I went to go get tissues and whispered something to her friend and loud enough for me to hear she said tell her.
I just looked at her and shook my head I know I should not give a crap but it kind of bothers me whenever someone talks about me and I kinda just want to defend myself....
so...................YEAH thanks for reading this post!

...I actually feel better >.>

Hahaha, I'm glad to see this is working out. ^^

X3

I can sympathize though. I went a majority of my life without friends or people I could rely on. I was often the talk of the town behind my back, and I'd get deeply offended if I caught wind of or witnessed people speaking about me in a questionable manner.

Since then, people have gotten to know me better and have realized that I'm not such a bad guy. All you can do is be yourself.

Takumi of the Wind wrote:I can sympathize though. I went a majority of my life without friends or people I could rely on. I was often the talk of the town behind my back, and I'd get deeply offended if I caught wind of or witnessed people speaking about me in a questionable manner.

Since then, people have gotten to know me better and have realized that I'm not such a bad guy. All you can do is be yourself.

yep! we may get mad about people talking behind our back but all we can do is be ourselves and just let it slide

I don't MIND people talking about me, it just can't stand it when the things the say are lies, that just gets me.

Key wrote:I don't MIND people talking about me, it just can't stand it when the things the say are lies, that just gets me.

Same here. That's what has caused a lot of shit for me on MO. People speaking lies. I'm getting to a point where people (AKA my enemies) are talking shit about me (calling me a child, attention seeker, hypocrite) and I find it funny. You bet I can be childish. You bet I seek attention (not the type I get like on MO) and I know I can be a hypocrite and even underhanded.
But I despise being lied about. And even more when I am being treated as a liar. I am not a liar. I am brutally honest to where it gets me in heaps of shit. And it urks me even MORE when I give damning evidence against someone and its just ignored and I'm still treated like a liar.
I've held back information from people either to protect them, myself or others. But out right lied and changed the truth? No. I've grown up beyond that crap.

You judge me for who I am. For all my good points and bad points.

Happens to me all the time, both online and in real life. Every day, haha.

I just tend to carry on.

New vent for myself.

Mixed signals/feelings.


One of my ex girlfriends, that I am still very good friends with, has been confusing me over the past few months with mixed feelings or signals. I dated her for a while back when I was a Senior in High School. It didn't work out when she pretty much cheated on me twice. I gave her two chances because I'm a very forgiving person, but overall it ended up just breaking down because of things like my family not liking her, me being stressed out, and her just not thinking I have any ambition (which is odd because I'm probably the most ambitious out of our group of friends).

After we broke up, I was devistated. In fact, I pretty much fell apart. I loved her, even with her flaws. Her personality and her hobbies and everything just went hand in hand with mine. We worked well together before the breakup. But after that, there was nothing but silence for about four years. I couldn't bare talking to her, and she was afraid of me. I needed time to cope.

My junior year of college pops up, and she suddenly decides to start talking to me again. She apologized for everything and how she was never there for me and basically walked all over me, and I apologized for being an ass about how I ignored her after she left me. She informed me that she'd be attending the same college as me, and I was okay with that but skeptical because I didn't know how I'd really care to socialize with her again.

So, at the beginning of last year, she starts attending as a Freshman. I'm sitting in the student lounge and bam, there she is, alongside her current boyfriend at the time. I decided to get over myself and talk to them, so after a few weeks we all became really good friends again. In fact, her (now ex) boyfriend is one of my best friends now, and we really hit it off with hobbies. Including cooking. We're like cooking bros now, haha.

Anyway, she had clearly matured a lot, and I was pretty impressed. She's still a bit naive, but she still has that flare I enjoyed about her. As we hung out more she's been really trying to make up for the past and she goes out of her way to be my friend now. At the end of last year though, she broke up with the guy that's now my best friend, and what's odd to me is after that, I noticed how there has been some sort of romantic tension between me and her.

It's hard to describe, but you know how you can just...feel that like....memory of being in love? I thought I had moved past her, but she does things that (from knowing her for many years) is clearly flirting with me. Even by the way she looks at me sometimes. She's even gone as far as to joke about me taking her out on a date. The other day, I was napping peacefully while she was browsing facebook at the table our group hangs out on, and I was woken up to her suddenly grasping my hand and exclaiming to me in a whisper, "I'm all of these things!" that was apparently describing some sort of horoscope personality matchup thing after I inquired on it in a mid-nap stupor. It took me a minute to realize she was holding my hand, which pretty much caused me to spaz out and smash my hand into the table as I hastily retracted it.


I'm frustrated at all of this because, I don't know what to do about it. Part of me, in the back of my head, wants me to ask her if she still has feelings for me and take her on that date she joked about. But the majority of me is both afraid of being let down again, and just doesn't want to deal with those feelings. It makes me angry, actually. But at myself, not her. And I can tell she gets frustrated too, because I tend to walk around the situations with either some sort of witty joke or a change of subject. I also just don't want to be an ass to her, or be let down because these are just false perceptions of something I'm putting too much thought into.

sounds to me like she does want to get back with you. Did she have any other boyfriends after that guy who became your best friend? Since you seem to be pretty close with that guy maybe you should ask him for his opinion or why did they break up.

Could be she just doesn't know what she wants right now. But I say try to find out if she really has changed and wisen up and if she has; try again.

Let me vent some more, I need it.

SO. My grandfather just died. My room mate whom I considered my good friend actually hates me. My ex whom i thought dead for the longest time just popped up out of nowhere after 3 years is trying to force her way back into my life. I have too much shit on my mind at the moment to properly focus on getting my coursework done... I'm gonna fail super hard. I can just see it happening.

Bryan Dacote wrote:sounds to me like she does want to get back with you. Did she have any other boyfriends after that guy who became your best friend? Since you seem to be pretty close with that guy maybe you should ask him for his opinion or why did they break up.

Could be she just doesn't know what she wants right now. But I say try to find out if she really has changed and wisen up and if she has; try again.

No she hasn't, but she's commented on a few cute people. She's bisexual, so she's open season for either a boyfriend or girlfriend. She often talks about how she really wants a girlfriend, too, but she never approaches any females. She broke up with the guy who is my best friend now because she didn't really feel it with him (she got together with him immediately after she broke up with me in high school and I left, broke up with him a month later because she wasn't feeling it, then got back together right when she went to college. After a year of dating, she just didn't feel it again and decided to break up with him mutually).

I really don't want to ask him anything about it because it's a really sore subject. I also don't want to be that guy that's moving in on something somebody who is a friend just lost. He loved her a lot too, and that's just a dick thing to do, IMO. But I'm sure he sees the same thing coming from her because we think on very similar wavelengths, and he gets uncomfortable when she does that kind of thing to me.

I'm considering asking her to a platonic dinner to see how she reacts during it, but at the same time, I just...I don't know. It just brings back a lot of memories that I wish I didn't have.


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Key wrote:Let me vent some more, I need it.

SO. My grandfather just died. My room mate whom I considered my good friend actually hates me. My ex whom i thought dead for the longest time just popped up out of nowhere after 3 years is trying to force her way back into my life. I have too much shit on my mind at the moment to properly focus on getting my coursework done... I'm gonna fail super hard. I can just see it happening.

I can relate man, I can relate. I'm sorry about your loss, and I hope you can cope accordingly. Honestly, just take things one step at a time. I wouldn't let your ex bother you (I should probably practice what I preach, haha), but that is really weird.

The past few days, I've been finding myself in the most serious mood, and i literally cannot tolerate any light-hearted small talk, it just seems like a waste of time, and i know that this mood is pathetic as one should not be so easily hindered, but in all honesty i, out of nowhere [without it being deserved] wish i could tell people to fucking mature and act like a decent person for god sake. obviously this is out of hand and should never be told to people for such a small thing as immaturity, but literally i need to stop my hands from typing something like: if your going to talk about this ridiculous, pathetic, boring excuse for roleplaying or whatever the hell, take it somewhere i can't see it, like pm, or to the damn seventh hell where you belong for having such a shit way of passing time! . Even now as i write this i am seeing the notifications for this god damned waste of communication, probably the only thing feeling this rage filled proclamation. As i am indeed mature [in my opinion] i refuse to let this be known, but i just hope this serious mood leaves as swiftly as it arrived.    


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